I Mentioned
Yesterday, in an angry, upset state, I mentioned to my wife that I would like my sole Christmas gift to be family counseling.
In reality, I care nothing about gifts. I have not really "anticipated" a joy of a gift for many, many years. But, if I could have some meaningful and helpful results from family counseling, that would be better than any gift I could imagine.
Yet, I really have no notion of what/how counseling may be like or how it would help in our situation. I do not know if folks would be willing.
In my mind, I imagine that at least PART of what would transpire in counseling would be that I would be able to carefully verbalize my thoughts and beliefs with regards to our family situation. I do not know if it would be truly heard or understood. But, at some level, I want to be able to verbalize it.
I tend to doubt it will happen. Just another pipe dream, IMO.
PipeTobacco
1 Comments:
Understandably, you can't/shouldn't communicate details here regarding your family upset. But as you think about your upsets, perhaps it would be helpful to privately categorize them so you can take the different actions required of each. For instance, if someone is actually violating the law under your roof, you shouldn't become an accomplice by your silent acceptance, lest you face legal consequences. But if it's a moral rather than legal disagreement, can you find a way to "let go" and either "agree to disagree" or take action to distance yourself from the conflict of morals? And if it's neither a legal nor a moral problem, but is simply someone being a jerk (cruel, inconsiderate, etc.), perhaps you can set some standards for conduct under your roof, with the understanding that if the jerk can't abide by those standards, he/she doesn't belong under your roof?
Oh, and whether or not you decide to smoke it, I suggest that you buy yourself a new pipe for Christmas (or ask your wife to buy you one).
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