The Thoughts of a Frumpy Professor

............................................ ............................................ A blog devoted to the ramblings of a small town, middle aged college professor as he experiences life and all its strange variances.

Thursday, October 17, 2013

A Potential Breakthrough

Today I had a bit Of a break through of sorts. I became better able to understand some of my own behavior today. I realized, even though I always kind of knew it, that I get very obsessed when people speak angrily to me when there is no reason. Now don't get me wrong, if a person has a bad day and speaks grumpily, but apologizes there is no problem. It is when they are just speaking angry for no reason related to me, and they don't apologize that is the issue.

I realized today that when the above happens, I am up fretting and ruminating about it for a very long time. It is foolish for me to do this.  My first inclination is to want to confront them and explain how it made me feel. That usually ends badly, so I have learned to not confront the person immediately. But, the problem is that I  then ruminate, and ruminate, and ruminate over the issue wasting my own time and usually become angry myself in the process.  

The above happened today when I was interacting with a coworker who is supposed to help me with some aspects of one of my classes. This person was basically yelling at me about things that were not my fault. It took me a wihile to realize what I was doing and how it was a complete waste of my time.  However , when I figured out how foolish I was being with my own time, I was able to refocus and get back on track.  

I think this is an important thing for me to keep in mind when I get frustrated at others .  I think this is a fail airily common reason for me to get irritated and it is just plain foolishness for me to waste my time this way.  It IS my natural inclination to think and ruminate about these annoyances that sit unresolved, but if I can work at being more aware of them when they occur, I think I may be able to help myself resolve the pent up frustrations more readily.  I am going to try to be more aware of these situations when they occur.

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9 Comments:

Blogger BBC said...

I get very obsessed when people speak angrily to me when there is no reason.

Well, in your mind anyway, but there are two minds in play here.

Has it ever occurred to you to tell them to go fuck themselves and walk away laughing?

Or will you go to confession and whine about your and their sins?

Thursday, 17 October, 2013  
Blogger BBC said...

Life is uncertain, first thing this morning I'm eating these fucking brownies.

Friday, 18 October, 2013  
Blogger billy pilgrim said...

just because you can't detect the reason for someone speaking angrily doesn't mean that the reason doesn't exist.

you dwell upon yourself too much. the rosewater foundation, in concert with dr andrew weil, has developed many technics for treating this condition. in my opinion, your sympathetic nervous system is running amok.

do you frequently have cold hands?

Sunday, 20 October, 2013  
Blogger BBC said...

Billy P is such a joker.

Monday, 21 October, 2013  
Blogger billy pilgrim said...

feel free to disregard my opinions, most people do. however, do not accuse me of not attempting to provide you with one small step in the long journey to inner piece.

i suspect that bbc has almost completed this journey but taken a path that most people would disdain.

Monday, 21 October, 2013  
Blogger BBC said...

He has a point, damn few people like being bums and having a lot of leisure time. Most folks want things they have to work hard to get, and hold on to.

Monday, 21 October, 2013  
Blogger harry said...

Balls.

Monday, 21 October, 2013  
Blogger BBC said...

Hey, it's Sunday, have a nice day, go fishing or something instead of going to church...

I'm going to the monthly shooting match....

Sunday, 27 October, 2013  
Blogger Hugh G Rekshonn said...

Please come back Professor, all your friends miss you.

Sunday, 03 November, 2013  

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