The Thoughts of a Frumpy Professor

............................................ ............................................ A blog devoted to the ramblings of a small town, middle aged college professor as he experiences life and all its strange variances.

Thursday, February 14, 2013

Valentine's Day



Today is Valentine's Day.  It is a day about love.  Romantic love like I have with my wife is the most obvious form, but a broader love is important and valuable to think about as well.  I so love my wife.  I so love my kids, I so love my family. 

There really isn't much else of any importance for us to do on the time we are on Earth.  We should love one another.  It isn't always easy.  But it is always worth it. 

I hope that today my emotions stay more positive.  Yesterday, was very rough, and I was a basket case for part of the day.  My drive to the U was filled with wracking, deep sobs of despair and gloom as tears streamed into my beard and moustache.  It was all very foolish, but it was also very, very real. 

My anxiety all stems from a resistance on my part to changes.  Being very much the stable, stay-the-same kind of person I have always been....  has served me quite well across these many decades.  Yet, at the same time, my dislike of change, my fear of change, my strong emotional resistance to change can (and does) hinder me as well.  My wife and I are trying to make an important decision that involves change.  I am not at liberty to describe the details at this time, but the decision we make will set us on a new course for our future.  This is true regardless of if I resist change and stay the same, or if I accept change and all the anxiety it induces in me.  Both paths could be wildly wonderful and exciting.  Yet, I fear not choosing the best path. 

It is all convoluted and difficult to deal with.  Basically, I am fearful of making this decision, regardless of which decision I make.  My wife feels similarly. 

If you do not understand my image above, it is part of my convoluted thinking.  The hearts represent Valentine's Day, and the coins represent "change".  In my odd sense of things, I find this a humorous image to post.  But, my humor is rather odd, or so I have been told.  My wife has told me that often. 

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41 Comments:

Blogger Beth said...

Especially when you are change-averse, this is very hard. Fortunately there are several tools that can help. One of my favorite writers is Martha Beck, and she has several stories about change and trying to find the best choice. here are some pertinent links:

http://marthabeck.com/2008/06/confused-about-which-of-your-inner-voices-to-trust/

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/Martha-Beck-Yes-No-Maybe/1

http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Make-Decisions-Make-the-Right-Choice

DO NOT be misled by the fact that these articles are published in O magazine. They are NOT just for women, but for anyone who is having trouble with choices. Her books are marvelous clarifiers, and I highly recommend any of them, but especially
Finding Your Own North Star
and
Steering by Starlight.

Good luck.

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Blogger BBC said...

Romantic love is often overrated and hard to maintain.

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Blogger Aquarians Love To Fuck said...

The larger of the three coins is the famous silver "Pieces of Eight" of the historic "Spanish Main". The famous "Pillar Dollar" from where we get the term "2 Bits" = 25 cents.

As a coin collector, the vandalisation of a coin planchet with a punch - even heart shaped - is blasphemy.

Perhaps the symbolism of this photograph has nowt to do with the concepts of 'love' and 'change', but of your hatred of 'art','beauty' and the entire field of numismatics? Not to mention your disdain for Capitalism and its inherrent monetary system.

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Blogger harry said...

So Frumper old sod, what do you think about the upcoming MotoGP season? Daytona 200 coming up next month too!

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Blogger Jane said...

If both paths "could be wildly wonderful and exciting" then how can you go wrong?
Quit torturing yourself, Pipe, and make a decision!

Monday, 18 February, 2013  
Blogger harry said...

Apparently Frumpy LIKES torturing himself.

Is better than torturing others though.

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Blogger BBC said...

Well, Harry, she wouldn't have a life if she couldn't harass others, she sure doesn't care about Pipe and his problems.

Jane likely left the best comment, at least it was about the post.

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Blogger harry said...

Unless all those deleted comments were commercial spam I wonder why they were shitcanned. Oh well, down the memory hole.

Brave new world aye, professor?




Please delete this after three days or it starts to stink up the joint, whichever comes first.




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Blogger harry said...

Janes comment is right on the money, no doubt about that.

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Blogger austere said...

That's a lot of comments for sure.
I've stumbled upon an interesting blog, at www.raptitude.com. Very well written.

take care, PT

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