Tick-Tock

 

The clock keeps spinning, and I need to vent slightly about an annoyance:

Our U has an Office of Disability Services.  This is, of course, a very valuable thing and is good, important and needed to help folks who may have a disability of some sort that can be accommodated to help them be successful in college.  I have have many 100s of such students over the years, and they have ranged from physical limitations to emotional and mental limitations.  It is good of our U to do this sort of service.

Yet, as I have spoken about previously, there are SOME aspects of accommodations that the U sometimes awards students that are simply akin to cheating.  I now regularly get perhaps half a dozen students a year now that qualify for "note cards" (aka cheat sheets) that they can write up ahead of time and then USE during their exam at a quiet, solitary testing center at the U.  But, I digress.... these are students I have spoken of before, and they are still, to my manner of thinking..... not doing the right thing.... for others in the class, for the class itself, and for their own learning.

The new pet peeve, however is the adoption of the "privilege" of NOT having to use a scantron sheet when taking an exam.  Supposedly, these students have some sort of "challenge" in filling in the bubbles on a scantron sheet that warrants their simply needing to circle the answer they choose on the multiple choice test itself.  And, our Office of Disability Services does not convert the answers onto a scantron for us professors.  No, we are simply supposed to do it ourselves.  And, when you have 5-6 students (out of my ~275) acquire this "accommodation" across 5 different 100 question exams in the semester.... it is just annoying and aggravating to do.... and it does not actually feel appropriate.   

Yes, it does not take a LONG time.  But it is ANNOYING that this is an "accommodation" a student may select.  And, in the two that I am converting today.... each student is NOT visually impaired, has no coordination issues, and BOTH write in very fine, very small script all over their exam booklet (I permit this for all students).... so they damn well can fill in a bubble on a scantron form.  

• Ran 10.  It was nice outside again.  A bit windy, but still quite pleasant.  
• My wife and I hope to go swim this afternoon and perhaps will dine out tonight.  
• Still debating in my mind (eagerly) whether to have a cigar or a pipe if I get to go a week from this Thursday.  I am probably making this decision and this planned for event FAR bigger a deal than most would understand.  But, it sounds and seems as if it could be just so very good at many levels.  I really would PREFER a pipe, but I also do not really want to stand out like a sore thumb if cigars are the norm.  
  

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Mustard Seed

 

A variety of bullets today:

• I am feeling significantly better on several fronts overall.
• A.  The incredible stress of last two weeks with so MANY extra U events and extra U deadlines and all the U final lectures of the semester that had to be completely finished and most of the emotional turmoil from the U students who are failing one or more of my courses is OVER.
• B.  A major new "Community Service & Outreach" component of my research work happened Saturday, and the preparation for this ALSO occupied much of the last two weeks. "Community Service & Outreach" is a new buzz phrase in the politics of campus at the moment, and it is spearheaded by folks in the typically community service oriented disciplines (i.e. social work, communications, business, etc.) to "coax" (perhaps read as "goad") other disciplines to "Gee whiz, Get out there, and show them yer stuff !"
• Scientists do not typically have a lot of "Community Service & Outreach" activities in their day-to-day.  However, I was able to expand my "Community Service & Outreach" in a couple of carefully crafted ways that I personally have found legitimate and valuable.  This past Saturday, I spent the day at a regional "Earth Day" extravaganza and set up a booth to talk about endocrine disrupting pollutants.  This has direct relatability to some facets of my lab's research since many of my research strands are involving the developmental implications of exposure to medications and other endocrine disrupting chemicals.  But, as a part of my being at this event, I have a second goal as well... to collect signatures & e-mails from folks because I have tasked my undergraduate researchers with a goal to complete this Summer of creating a social media presence (I think they are going with Instagram) where they will be creating curated (and monitored by me) posts where they take newly published endocrine disruption research journal articles and condense the findings into a posting that is more widely readable and meaningful for a general audience.... to be a part of our "Community Service & Outreach" that can be ongoing.  The e-mails I collected at the "Earth Day" extravaganza will  hopefully seed interest in the account and this will add to the easier to obtain "fish in a barrel" population of future followers who will be a lot of U students.  We will see how it goes as they develop it.
• C.  My beloved pooch seems to be fully "up-to-snuff".  No screechy pain responses, she is back to her full hyperactive self and it is as if nothing had transpired.  I cannot explain it in the least.  But, I am thankful as all get out, for how it now seems.  And, after a huge amount of debate and discussion with my wife Thursday, we decided to have her (our dog) get her normal "spa" treatment  (the groomer).  I can tell you I was completely on edge during the full four hours she was there, worrying and anticipating some sort of emergency call.  Because of an all-day U "extravaganza" on Friday that I needed to attend (several of my researchers presented at this "gala") my wife ultimately had to pick up our pooch.  She very kindly sent me photos of her after returning home showing that she (our dog) was feeling good, was excited, and seemed to even feel extra "beautiful" (it is odd, she always acts a bit like she knows she is extra pretty after the groomer).  
• D.  A MAJOR improvement in my TMJ occurred Friday evening as I was flossing (as I do usually at least three times a day), and while I was gingerly flossing around the two teeth that have been acting up relative to "olive pit-gate", I flossed out what was apparently an errant sesame seed.  And, I had not eaten any sesame seeds for the better part of a week.  When that seed came out, I felt an immediate decrease in pain.  What I think is the likely explanation is as follows.... back when I chomped down on the damn olive pit... it hurt like hell (of course) and bruised by temporomandibular bursa on that side, causing it to inflame greatly.  I think the inflammation affected my gingiva (gums) at that inflammatory site and since one of those teeth is of the (only) two teeth I have that are crowned, I think while inflamed, a damnable sesame seed lodged its way between the edge of the crown and my gum.... continually irritating the spot further.  It must have been wedged under the crown quite well, and until it started to work itself out, I could never catch it with the edge of dental floss, so I was not aware of it being there.  I just felt its pain as part of the bursa pain.  With the exiting of that damnable seed, my jaw feels ~90% better, and I was able to eat in relative comfort last night, which was wonderful.  I think it may be a bit of time for my gingiva to fully heal/recover, so I am still going to eat rather gingerly on that side for the time being... and also for the time being.... no tiny seed-like items! The power of a mustard seed (and even a sesame seed) is not something to dismiss.
  

So, this morning, I ran my 10 miles (10.1 actually,  ~16.25 km) and it actually FELT enjoyable.  It was around 50 degrees outside, with little wind, and it was heavily foggy, and would rain gently occasionally through the run.  

One small less than delightful thing also occurred.... at about 1:00am this morning.  I try to the best of my ability to be quite fastidious about the goings on in my lab.  But, over the decades, I have had to make a "panicked" trip back to the U to make sure I did not leave some sort of dangerous piece of equipment on.  I would say it has happened to me, perhaps once every other year or so.  Well, as I was drifting off to sleep... and yes, I was imagining the hoped for cigar shop meet up in about a week-and-a half, and I was imagining being there and still debating between whether I would choose a cigar (to fit in) or my pipe (which apparently is "allowed" but my impression is that it is not the norm.... but what I  would like most to indulge in, truth-be-told).  It was quite pleasant just having the gentle debate of which delight to pursue in my mind..... when suddenly a different, damnable thought exploded into my mind, "Did I turn off the hotplate I had used to warm a solution I had made, earlier on Saturday before traveling to the Earth Day expo?"  I have a protocol that I follow and my students follow to check and double check the "hot" items (hotplates, bunsen burners etc) before any of us leave for a day.  But, dammit to hell, I could not say with certainty that I had turned off the damnable hotplate, because in the rush to get traveling to that farther away event, I did NOT follow my own damn protocol.  I was even more worried because it was a day and a half later.  Luckily, I knew I had the hotplate ONLY on warm, not on a setting where the element would be firey red in color.  But, that thought and the uncertainty of what I had done was like a jolt of lightning going through my body.  I had to get dressed and head over to the U at 1:00am.  Very fortunately, I happily found that I HAD turned off the hotplate, and there was no worry. 

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The New "Normal"

 

Thurs far, what I have been able to do to try to return to "normal" is not quite where I want, but it is a bit better:

• I typically wake feeling nervous and fearful.  Everything still FEELS like problems are lurking around every corner.  This includes all the things I have been worrying about of late:  a) my dog, b) the agonizingly slow progress in my TMJ, c) the feelings of being either behind or teetering on a knife's edge in terms of keeping all the crap I have to do, afloat, and d) whatever the NEXT major crisis will be and when it will occur.
• I POUND OUT MILES until I am so tired that my nervousness and fearfulness have somewhat dissipated.
• I get to work, and juggle all the work crap from the moment I step foot on campus until I can leave.
• Late, late in the day, I can finally quit, and I go home (or sometimes get to swim a bit first and then go home).  I still feel nervous and on edge until I see if the dog is ok when I get in the house.
• I make dinner with my wife, and we eat together.
• We watch ~30-60 minutes of television
• We go to bed.

Lather, rinse, repeat... 

That is the best I can do at the moment.  It is not good.  It is actually pathetic. I need it to change.  I do not know how to get it to change.  But, I need it to change.  But, I am not asking for the damn moon and stars.  What I want is:

• To awake feeling generally refreshed, and calm.
•  To feel the old enthusiasm to go run those miles
•  To go to work and feel creative and excited about teaching and research.
•  To leave for the day, content and to swim with my wife.
•  To make dinner with my wife, and enjoy it together
•  To watch some television, feeling content until we feel sleepy.
•  To go to bed, enjoy each other intimately, and then fall into a restful sleep.
  

The two scenarios aren't TECHNICALLY a helluva lot different.  But, they are far more than "a river too far apart" from each other.  The culprits:

•   WORRY
•   DAMNABLY DAMNABLE TMJ
•   TOO MANY DAMNABLE DEADLINES

So, I am having a really hard time.  I am so CLOSE to having the life I would like on the surface... but the actual moment-by-moment living is so FAR from what it needs to feel like inside.   

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Trying

I am trying to be POSITIVE and trying to focus on doing good work and on having a "can do" attitude.  It is something I currently have to FORCE my mind into, as the various ambiguities about so many things feel like I am a juggler who is trying to juggle 15 bowling balls simultaneously while riding a unicycle on a tightrope 100 feet off the ground. 

• Nervous, but hopeful about our dog.   She SEEMS normal, even after two days without the medicine.  But, she also has a grooming appointment for Friday, and that usually is wonderful for her and she likes the feeling and the people, but it is also taxing and I am not sure if we should keep or cancel this appointment because she often is utterly exhausted from the experience for at least a full day if not two.
  
• TMJ... the damnable olive pit incident is STARTING to slowly resolve, I think.  But, it is still painful, especially after eating for a while.  And, EATING is something I need to do physically and emotionally. I just hope that it will fully dissipate.... and hopefully soon.
  
• Frustrating deadlines are looming all about me.  Abstract submissions, printing submission deadlines, and of course the looming of final exam week not too far from now.... and that week's deadlines for exams to the graphic's center, the futzing around getting exams to the Disabilities Office for students who qualified for various accommodations (usually psycho-social) to make taking an exam easier for them... but more time consuming and difficult for me, and many, many others.  

But, regardless of the above (and more) I NEED to be more positive and work to find happiness even with all the stressors and worry.  Pat mentioned something akin to this in comments two entries ago, and it struck a chord with me, but I did not initially know how to verbalize it.  But also while listening to Mass today while running (OUTSIDE... it was 50 degrees Fahrenheit  (10 C)) at 5:00am this morning, I heard a homily about being a good sheep.  The basic idea of this homily was to try to promote a feeling of acceptance of what is, while at the same time still knowing that we need to work hard to do good... and to see good around us.  Pat's ideas were similar and very helpful.  I am still not explaining the ideas well.... but I can state that the words of Pat and of this Priest both have helped me to (emotionally, apparently not verbally) recognize how I have to work to be.  It at least gives me a ray of hope.

With all that is going on, I have difficulty thinking into the future much.  I am just attempting to survive the now with as much grace and happiness I can figure out to have.  So, even though TECHNICALLY I should have a free Thursday in two weeks to go to the cigar shop I was invited to by the fellow at Mass, I cannot even spend much time imagining that at the moment, even when drifting off to sleep.  I literally have virtually NO thoughts once I lay on the bed at the end of the day lately.  No dreams, no thoughts.  I still have to discern whether to try to have an actual cigar, or, as was suggested by the fellow when he wondered to me why I hadn't joined the group yet.... I could smoke my pipe (he said it "was allowed") since I had told him my background was mainly with pipe and pipe tobacco smoking. But, I have not had the energy to muster up thinking about that.

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Herstory

My beloved dog appears to be doing well with her medication at the moment.  She has been given (as I mentioned) some sort of anti-inflammatory/steroid/pain combination medicine.  In speaking with the veterinarian I am to continue giving this to her through the weekend and then stop on Monday morning.

Her behavior and physiology all seem to again be reasonably close to normal at the moment.  She is perhaps a bit less frenetic.  She has had consistent bowel movements and urinations.  She has barked some at noises she hears.  So, thus far things are hopeful.  

Yet, I still feel a sense of dread and terror that I am having difficulty shaking.  Her initial crisis really threw me for a loop.  I have always been extremely careful about all aspects of her care, and until this crisis, she has been very energetic, robust, and seemed younger than her years.  

When we obtained her, it was originally at the urging of my youngest daughter, as she had wanted a dog for a long time.  During most of our marriage my wife and I had mostly had many cats of various sorts.  I had also had cats as my primary pet prior to marriage, when in graduate school.  Do not get me wrong, I absolutely love dogs, and I had two great dogs growing up (and many cats as well).  In adulthood, I think the primary reason I gravitated towards cats was simply because of easier care requirements for cats.  With the ability to have an indoor litterbox, it made the variances of graduate school timetables more manageable, and this convenience is perhaps the major reason we had only cats for much of our marriage.  You CAN, if needed, leave a cat to its own devices for a day or two if travel is required.  Our cats often gave us grumpy faces for a bit upon return, but they were safe, secure and sound.  But, a dog necessitates a far more consistent routine, and of course this is in part for potty breaks, but also tends to include food too, as MOST dogs will tend to overeat if food is available.  Some cats do as well, but it is not as common.   

I love all the pets I have had, quite dearly.  And, even though arguably, we obtained our dog because my youngest daughter so wanted a dog, I also knew that it was more than probable that the dog would become my primary responsibility.  I think that is often common for dogs in families, but it goes further than that....

I am not sure what it is, but throughout my whole life, pet animals (dogs and cats primarily, but cockatiels, guinea pigs, and other sundry pets I have been around (at home, during college and graduate school, and into full adulthood) seem to bond very, very strongly with me.  It has always been that way.  There must be some facet of my personality that pets can read and perhaps find comforting.  I am not sure.  And, I admit, I strongly bond with them too.  

And, I do not mind, as I love interacting with them.  I always have.  In part that is likely why I navigated towards biology and also towards veterinary medicine (and equally why I moved away from veterinary medicine... too much emotional pain in that career) during my college years.

Well, the above is me blathering.  What I was meaning to say was that our new puppy, from nearly the moment we drove home with her in our car, stuck to me like glue.  Yes, she did always play with our kids, and yes, she always was happy and excited to see my wife.  But, much, much of the time, she was focused on interacting with me. We have one cat currently, and he is the same.  I am his focus.  

It was not that I intentionally tried to have our pets be so "enamored" with me compared to others in our family.  It just seems to be the way they respond with me.  It has always been this way.  

AC mentioned that he did not realize I had a dog.  The above is somewhat in response to that comment.  I have mentioned my dog many times here but, typically only in passing, so I can easily understand not remembering these mentions.    

I am not exactly sure why I am writing this today.  It is perhaps just me trying to cope with the roiling emotions I am still trying to figure out how to quiet.  I KNOW she is elderly.  But, this unexpected crisis threw me off kilter.  It makes me feel like a failure.  It makes me think regretfully about all the times I have missed with now deceased family, friends, and pets.... not because I didn't TRY, but because I can only do so much, and what I do never seems enough.  

To try to salvage the running week, I ran two different 10 mile runs today.  One, this early morning.  And the other (much more slowly) this early afternoon.  I had hoped I could stomp out my worries and fears, but of course, that did not happen.  It did quell them a little.  

My sleeping has been rough the last few days as well as I keep close watch on our dog.  I cannot even seem to focus strongly enough on beautiful pipe memories to fall into sleep.  I feel I need to be "on guard" to watch, and observe, and care. 

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Histronic

 

Yesterday, at about 5:30am, my wife and I were in bed and my wife was petting our dog and gently touched her hind quarter region of her leg when our dog emitted the most horrendous scream and jumped off the bed and her whole hind quarters were shaking.  She ran into her crate (which she does not use, except for when there are storms).  She did not want to come out.

The veterinarian opened at 8:00am, and I knew that they had other workers who usually showed up to care for overnight patients beginning ~7:30am.  My wife and I were terribly worried and I was literally hysterical in worry, grief and anxiety.  

While I was getting dressed quickly (in work clothes to teach), I was crying deep, guttural sobs of fear and worry.  "What if the veterinarian says she needs to be euthanized???" I was hysterical from fear.  I was panicked about trying to get her into my vehicle, and did not want to move her.  I carried her, in her crate The crate is ~36 in X 24 in x 24 in (~90 cm x 60 cm x 60cm) and our dog weighs ~ 35 pounds (~16 kg), so the whole contraption and our dog would weigh ~50 pounds (~23 kg).  I was terrified and carried her in the crate downstairs and out into my vehicle.  I cried the whole way.

I got there at 7:30am and phoned inside to the Veterinary Office.  A worker answered.  I explained.  Eventually I was able to bring her in (crate and all) and sit in an exam room with her by 7:50am.  Now, just to wait until the veterinarian arrived.  

When she eventually arrived, my dog had worked herself into her normal "frenzy" of being at the veterinarian.  She was barking and excited and exuberant.   The veterinarian knows her and her breed (mostly a Wheaton Terrier).  She said the adrenalin rush our dog experiences about the excitement of being at the vet masks her symptoms (meaning that she knew and understood I was not making up the worry/terror I felt as I explained what had happened).  She slowly palpated our dog, trying to see what hurt.... nothing from spinal massage, nothing from leg manipulation and distension.  Nothing.  Yet, when our dog was not bounding around she would visibly shake in her hindquarters showing that SOMETHING was still going on.  The veterinarian saw this too.  

The veterinarian gave her a anti-inflammatory/pain injection and gave me oral versions of this medicine to administer each morning.  If it does not resolve, the next step is to x-ray her, but that requires anesthesia so we are trying to avoid that.  

Our dog was somewhat groggy and listless last evening, but not trembling.  She seemed "better" to some degree.  This morning, she seemed "close" to her usual self.  But I am still filled with dread.  I am still worrying about the "last shoe to drop".  I am having a very hard time.  Yesterday, I was non-stop in action.  The moment I was discharged from the vet, I had to rush home, make our dog comfortable, and then rush at high speed to get the U to just barely get to my first class of the day.  In the brief, 1-hour break I had mid-day, where I normally grade and do other work and research, I instead high-tailed it home to check on the dog and to let her go to the bathroom in case the medication increased her need to "potty".  Then I raced back to get to my next class. Then it was non-stop work through 6pm.  

I slept fitfully last night, mostly listening for how our dog was sleeping and behaving.  I am exhausted today.  I am still filled to the brim with anxiety and feelings of panic.  I am trying my best to calm down and trying to keep focused that at least on the surface, things have stabilized and may be improving.... though my mind is spinning/churning out thoughts about what I should do what I should be observing, and ultimately searching for anything I may be missing.  I am still feeling fearful that this is not actually fixed or resolved.  I worry, because she is 11 years old, and I know she is elderly.  It hurts my heart so to imagine her death.

I did not run yesterday.  I did not run today.  This may be the first week I fail at my weekly mileage in over 4.5 years.  Right now I don't give a sh*t. 

I am scared, I am exhausted, I am about ready to collapse.  Yet, I have to figure out how to do the damnable day's work today.  I do not have the option to cancel classes, it is too close to the end of the semester.  I cannot cancel research meetings, we have presentations forthcoming.  

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Lackluster

 

I have been away a while.  Not really sure it matters a whole helluva lot anyhow, I guess.  I am still struggling to find a way back to feeling my usual self.  It is difficult.  I believe I am going to try to (the best of my ability) to write smaller thoughts here for a while, as I think that perhaps what I write is too damn verbose and folks do not want to read that much.

So, I am not sure if there is anything much else to say today.  My MIL and SIL are both having new health issues.  A nephew by marriage is going to get married for the THIRD TIME this coming weekend, and I do not relish going to another hootenay-hoedown thing for him and his future wife (who is also getting married for the third time).  His other two marriages ended in divorce when he had affairs.  I suspect the same may transpire here.  

Most everything is still the same:

I run my damnable miles.  10 miles this morning.

I do a bunch of work.

I think very often and fondly about my pipes, and feel like going back to them. 

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All I Can Do

 

Seemingly an apt title for today, but also arguably the very best (at least MY personal favorite) song ever recorded by the Carpenters. 

I am continuing to try to "pull myself up" by my bootstraps.  I have been working considerably on trying to get through the very harsh aftereffects of the damn olive pit on my TMJ.  Yesterday was a bit better.... the pain only started to form about an hour or so before bedtime.  I wore my bite splint most all of the day other than when I was lecturing.  And, I focused on chewing very gingerly and gently throughout the day in an effort to quell any flare-ups.  It may seem strange, but it is exhausting, thinking about and carefully chewing any food that I eat.  It probably will in the end help to decrease the calories I consume during this span as it gets tiring very quickly.  

In my previous post, there were a few comments I thought I would respond to:

Pat stated...  "I get the sense that simply by your nature you are going to be under stress and feel some sadness whether or not you are enjoying your pipes. But at least with your pipes you would have a tool to ameliorate some of your stress and sadness."

Right now, at this particular time of the year, I believe you are 100% correct about the stress and sadness.  I NEED to find a way to figure out how to quell those feelings and also figure out a way to get them to stop…. so that I can go back to my normal, happier living.  The biggest difficulty is that I have SOME things I CAN control to an extent (some damnable animal use paperwork that I have to finish and submit that just is frustrating and 10x more labor intensive than it needs to be, and with my having scant available time within the scope of my other work to devote to this arduous task, it never is getting done),  and so it continually looms in my mind.  But, I have no energy/ambition/desire to pull an "ALL NIGHTER" without sleep to get the damn work off my plate.  

You are also right that the return to my beloved pipes and pipe tobaccos WOULD ameliorate a fair amount of the stress and sadness.  I have been thinking about that quite a bit.  It seems like a grand idea to me most days.  But, I do tend to also have concerns in my (Freudian) ego and superego on whether to indulge in this context would simply be me "taking the easy way out" if you get my meaning.  What I mean is that I have been searching/contemplating/scheming of ways in which I could successfully engage a careful, well metered return to my pipes on OCCASION.  In reality, if I used "stress" as the benchmark for allowing me to indulge.... hell, I would be smoking my pipes MORE than I did several years ago. :)

The TWO bowls of pipe tobacco I have indulged in since starting the fasting journey were each so beautiful, fulfilling, near perfection.... and also nearly Nirvana for me. I would most like to find a workable pattern that allows this sense of Nirvana.....  but have it occur a damn bit more frequently than twice in six years and 50 days (as of today). 

Margaret stated... "No more olives for you, sir! I understand the stress of get togethers."

I love olives so very much.  Yet, since the first incident occurred, I have been visibly pinching all of my olives before adding them to salads or other foods to assure myself they HAVE BEEN PROPERLY PITTED.  Unfortunately, I think this most recent damnable olive pit was HIDDEN in the bottom of a bottle of a jar of green olives where the olives had been consumed… and all that (I thought) remained in the jar were some loose pimentos that had fallen out of the olive centers. I nonchalantly tossed these errant red pimentos onto my salad without thinking a damnable pit may have been lurking under the bundle of red pimentos.  And, yes, the stress of get togethers when there is the potential for negative outcomes tends to spoil the time.  I was on edge until the day was done.  

 Pam stated... "If your doctor would prescribe a mild tranquilizer for you, your life would be improved immensely. I say this as an anxious person who has successfully moderated my use of tranquilizers for 40 years."

Pam... THANK YOU for the above.  I want to assure you that in NO WAY would I think it a "weakness" to use a tranquilizer (as you suggested as a possible thought in your comment).  I think the use of medications of any sort that are medically prescribed can be and typically are WONDERFUL things.  Also, you mentioned that your advice was unsolicited.... that is not true.  Even though I did not specifically say "Pam... tell me....".... the reason I write here is to try to obtain the ideas and opinions of others.  I very much value your thoughts and ideas and advice.  

In regards to my taking a tranquilizer or hell, most any medication is something I am unsure about regarding MY OWN potential weaknesses in doing so.  Let me explain:

1.  I do not (as of yet) taken any medications in a continual fashion.  I have, of course, had a round of antibiotics a few times over the years, and I have on occasion taken some sort of over-the-counter remedy.  But, I do not have any long term prescriptions from my doctor.  Chronic prescription medication consumption does worry me a bit, because of potential side effects.  I know that the probability is high that someday my doctor will TELL ME that I must start to take "this" or "that" medicine.....but it does make me nervous to imagine doing so.

2.  I DO consume a few various multi-vitamin and mineral supplements each day.  I do this only because I am not always certain if I adequately meet these needs with my diet.  I started this LONG ago when I was working on changing my BMI..... fearing that while in weight loss, there was a potential for me to not obtain the necessary vitamins and minerals as I strived to reduce caloric intake. 

3.  Another concern for me is if a medication is neurally active in some fashion.... my worry is.... what if I LIKE the damn thing too much?   Is that a path that would be a struggle for me to for me to navigate?  Sincerely, I do not really know how to answer that question.

I believe across my lifespan, I know of three neurally active substances I have consumed.  The results were variable:

A.  Pipe Tobacco.... hell, everyone knows and understands that I love and relish pipe tobacco.  I loved and relished pipe tobacco long before I smoked my first bowlful.  And, smoking my first pipe-full only CONFIRMED what I thought.... that pipe smoking to me was utter bliss and Nirvana.  That idea is as true today as it ever has been. Even though I have been away from it for so long now, its appeal does not change.  For whatever REASON pipe tobacco and pipe smoking is damn near magical for me.

B.  Alcohol...  having a drink or two (or sometimes three) is enjoyable.  But, truth be told, it is enjoyable to me rather sporadically.  These days I typically may indulge in a one or two beers a month.  But... also very, very truthful.... alcohol used to be more enjoyable.... when I enjoyed it as a WAY TO ENHANCE how wonderful my pipe and pipe tobacco was!  I can still remember so well, when I would go over to my FILs on many Fridays across decades, and we would sit, and have a drink or two while we talked.  There were several times over the years when I would very purposefully not indulge in a pipe the morning before I went to visit my FIL.... because I was looking forward to the beautiful intensity of that first pipe after I had drank a beer (or other alcoholic beverage) a bit earlier.  It is difficult to describe... but the best I can say is that what truly enjoyed about a drink was MOSTLY how it made the beauty of my pipe enhanced.

C.  Following a dental procedure where some of my gum had to be removed by cutting and cauterizing (it had overgrown due to movement of my below the gum surface, impacted wisdom tooth, and I had ended up chomping on it with my back molars, causing bleeding, infection, inflammation, etc), my dentist gave me a few pain pills that at the time, I didn't give much thought to them.  I took them for the three days following the procedure.  Nothing noteworthy.  Only a year or two later did the headlines start to sprout up about "Oxycontin" and I looked around for the empty bottle.  Sure enough that is what my dentist prescribed for me. But, it did not bother me in the slightest.  

So, while my foray into Oxycontin seemed wholly uneventful, and my drinking mode is modest a worst.  The passion I have for pipe tobacco makes me a bit worried that if another neurally active medication were to be something I end up really liking.... would that simply be a new stress to have to work through?  I do not know. 

The whole lyrics of the song "All I Can Do" are listed below.  I think this is lyrically and musically a very strong song.  It expresses emotions I can definitely relate to:

Yesterday, I thought you'd stay, I thought you'd see things my way
But now I see my hope may be dead
I should have known when you said I was the one that you wanted
Wanting meant nothing more than today

All I can do is cry over you and hope you return someday
All I can do is cry over you ever since you've gone away

Every road that I follow leaves me with no tomorrow
I need someone to show me the way

All I can do is cry over you and hope you return someday
All I can do is cry over you ever since you've gone away

 

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Vent

 

The old "bootstraps" approach is NOT working.  I have been trying to work myself out of my sorrows, but I have not been successful.  It is the same old sh*t that has been problematic for a while:

1.  My TMJ Disorder has been so, so damn annoying and hard to deal with.  I believe an errant chomp with my teeth onto an olive pit about two or three weeks ago likely bruised my bursa on right side of the tempormandibular joint.  The pain, the swelling, the discomfort.... and the radiating pain into my ear..... just about are going to be the end of me.  I did this same damn thing (even, perhaps if I recall, due to a damn olive pit as well) perhaps a year or so ago.  

2.  Easter actually felt more like stress than a joyful day.  Having the kids over along with relatives is not longer the casual fun it used to be.  Instead, I just feel a sense of dread and anxiety because of the one I no longer mention here.... and what this person may spout off about.  And, conversely, some of the relatives may casually say something that could also cause this person to spout off.  I would far rather meet with the various relatives OUTSIDE of meeting with "the person I no longer talk about".  It would be a lot less stressful for me.  But, unfortunately, I do not really get to decide unilaterally.  My wife wants everyone to get along and be happy, so she always hopes for the best and always wants EVERYONE together.  And, she was RIGHT... nothing horrible happened THIS TIME.  But, that did not mean I did not have extreme stress and anxiety about the possibility.... all day.  

The only thing I actually want to do lately is lay with my wife on the bed and have her hold me or I hold her.  I feel I could sleep for weeks/months.  

I did all my damn usual things, like always.... stomped my feet through all the damn miles this morning, thought about my pipes and pipe tobaccos like always.  

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